Millicent Belton-Carey

March 7, 1961 ~ March 21, 2018 (age 57)

In the quiet vespertine hours of Wednesday, 21 March 2018, the Lord sent his angels to accompany Millicent Belton Carey as she climbed His gilded doorstep of His Mansion. She transmigrated and resurrected Into the Heavenly Paradise. One can imagine the Angels' exaltation for the work she had done in the Heavenly Father's honor during her life. Millicent lived the life which exemplified the message of the Lord.

...When you stand with the blessings of our mother and God,

It matters Not who stands against you

Yoruba Proverb

Millicent was born in Jamaica, Queens County of New York as the second child of the three offspring (progeny) to Rufus Roscoe Belton and Matilda Lucinda Mills Belton. Her eldest brother Rufus Roscoe a/k/a Pooch passed before her birth. Becoming part of the Intercounty migration to the plush Suburbia, the parents alongside l years old Millicent proudly move to New Cassel — Westbury in 1962 and settled into their split-level house so built from scratch. New Cassel was an Historic landmark that originated In the Pre — Revolutionary period. The Homestead was settled by two prominent groups: The Ex- African slaves who in the Mid- 1700s were freed by the German Quakers and b) the African Freedmen who established themselves as Agrarian Tillers. They collectively named the farming community as "Grantsville " The Hessian mercenaries who fought the British during the American Revolution became Yeoman settlers to develop the agrarian economy in this village so renamed New Cassel after the hamlet In Germany. African Americans during the Civil Rights eras of the 1950s to 1960s began in groves to secure real estate holdings in New Cassel as " Welcome minorities. i'This was credited to the Civil Rights Act of 1957. Grantsville-New Cassel was the First Freed African communities of Long Island and the oldest hamlet in New York State. Her parents had this real estate holding from 1962 to 1984 and were one of the first African Americans to integrate the once predominant European  Immigrants community.

 Millicent and her young sister, Stephanie, would ride their bicycles to Arby's Roast Beef franchise on Old Country Road and then harkened back crossing the Long Island Railroad tracks on State street unto the sinuous Broadway street, they egressed unto Elizabeth Street's domiciliary (them home Millicent would devour her scrumptious Arby’s Roast Beef sandwiches with a smile. Occasionally, they made excursions to Cantiague Parks' once segregated swimming pool. Millicent and her sister were the only African American girls there. During Millicent's early formative years, her mother imbued her with Nigerian Folklore of Anansi (the African trickster), Brer Rabbits' Classics, Aesop's Folktale and the Harlem Cultural Renaissance. Millicent was given accordion and piano lessons. Both Millicent and her sister were enrolled at Camille's Dance Academy respectively for Ballet and Tap choreography lesson. For six years, they partook in the dance recitals. Millicent from aged 9 to 14 graced the stage with her ballerina performances as her parents brimmed with pride, marvel and dazzle. The Historic 1954 Brown's decision declared separate But Unequal Doctrine as unconstitutional and overturned the Plessy's 1896 decision. Its unprecedented ruling of public school desegregation has impacted upon the case of Swan v. Charlotte Mecklenburg County Board of Education (1971). Its litmus test seventeen years later enforced Busing, racial quotas, and gerrymandered school districting. Millicent was among the first African American children " Bused " to an all -White Drexel Avenue school in the late 1960s (1967) and the early 1970s. She was parcel of the Civil Rights movement that effectively tried to achieve the desired end of racial equality and parity. This alone reconfigure Millicent's mind, sentience, and perception. Her favorite academic curriculum amidst the school years was comprehensive of Classic French Literature and Languages, Earth Science, Biology, Physics Chemistry, the abstruse and recondite Trigonometry, African American History, Western civilization, Arts and Calligraphy. Upon graduation from Westbury Senior High School as an Honoree student in 1979, she later matriculated at Adelphi University. Suddenly, her father 's death on 08 February 1980 forced this 18 years old collegian to hold two jobs, both full and part times while attending the undergraduate college. As later experienced by her sister also, Millicent was never bestowed upon an academic scholarship Resolutely, she committed herself to the collegiate requirement and riveted her epistolary relationship with Doctors Alvin Poussaint and Kenneth Clark's African American Developmental Psychology as well as Jungian, Freudian, and Adlerian psychology. She found Social Psychology impressive. Her collegiate study also incorporated Pre-Med courses. In 1983, she earned her Bachelor of Arts degree In Psychology. This Alma Mater acknowledged her Honoree status. Several Graduate Schools courses were taken at two Historically: Black Colleges and Universities: Howard University and Bowie State. Eventually, her last matriculation transpired at the Graduate Medical School at Georgetown University. Given the insufficiency of educational funds and her saturnine health arising from Myasthenia Gravis and bone cancer, her ambition was discomfited, and she was forced to abandon Graduate Studies. Millicent's scholastic and multidisciplinary training prepared her for most of her managerial law-abiding career in the Non —Profit settings. Industrial Psychology literature exposed her to new and phenomenal dimension of the Human Factory Psychology and its application to the workforce. Millicent's leadership role cast a strong effectiveness I. Her indomitable spirit of charisma and instrumentality enabled Millicent to envision, empower, and energize other. She Implemented and designed public and organizational policies and contract that aligned with governing Federal and State Statutes and Laws. She kept abreast with the Bureaucratic (industry’s O) requisites, its track performance, Its benchmark analysis and its product life cycle (its design, evolution and declining value). The products were subjected to her periodic reassessment and reevaluation. Laying the foundation for optimal and maximized human potential, Millicent utilize the power of Pygmalion effect: its indoctrination tool to motivate team alliance, the team morale and team's commitment to the predetermined goal. Millicent geared toward such inductive measure as the reward then punishment psychology: its controlling mechanism.

Herewith, this exemplified her gift of Team Building skills with dramatic result of organizational success and performance. Her temperament and personality were Integrated traits of a patterned way of behaviors, attitudes, and values. She had sportsmanship and stewardship from which she stood out from the crowd. Mostly, her unique repertoire was a composite of conscientiousness; extraversion, self-confidence and self-efficacy, Intelligence, Generativity, emotional stability, intuitiveness where she invented nascent and future possibilities and pragmatic perception: very practical oriented ... These were her inherently proverbial Millicent marketed, embraced, influenced and affirmed the philosophy of Diversity Management and its nomenclature of Multiculturalism, diversity initiatives and d workplace diversity. The very concept of Diversity to Millicent was a catalyst of proactive change that stimulated the economy and maximized Quality production and assurance. Millicent infused the Pluralistic Model particularly its essence of inclusiveness and individual differences (I.e. physical disabilities, race, age, ethnicity, religion, genders, culture, nationality education creeds and other ascribed as well as achieved attributes (into her practice. Her occupational roles presented her anchorage and a patent sent of creativity, innovation, proactive risks aversion behaviors. She averted an d circumvented all cost producing risks. Accountability, risk aversion, fairness, equity and Diversity tolerance were all Millicent's harbinger or organizational success. She fomented the environmental climate of self-efficacy and belongingness for all supervised diverse groups. In every Non-Profit sector, it offered Millicent the wellspring of managerial positions. Millicent was responsive to demographic and social changes. Upon graduation from Adelphi University, Millicent launched her career in the advocacy of the Disabled in the Non Profit sectors. She was employed at St Christopher Ottilies Institutional Therapeutic Foster Boarding Home for the developmental disabled in Sea Cliff-Glenn Cove. It offered higher lev el of care for children with medically certified handicapped conditions: developmental disabilities was comprehensive of infantile autism, epilepsy, cerebral palsy, mental retardation, Emotional disturbance, Failure to thrive, attention deficit disorders with or without hyperactivity, deafness blindness, and neurological impairment (i.e. Learning disabilities, speech and language deficit, neurofibromatosis, and Tourette's syndrome (Millicent had established and built fictive and therapeutic rapport with these children. Her sister had upon visit witnessed her bonding patterns with them. Her role aligned with the governing law under the Rehabilitative, Comprehensive services and Developmental Disabilities Act of 1978. Advocacy, youth crisis intervention and program coordination were some of specialized tasks.

Subsequently, Millicent began navigation her career exploration. The next step was to look into audiological science as a possible career. She escorted her sister and their mother to Long Island Jewish Speech and Hearing Center. There, Dr. Jack Theurer, the audiologist, educated her about audiological science. Millicent was surprised to find her ability to hear at 20 decibel (unit of loudness) while her sister hears the same conversational dialogue at 90 decibel. Eventually, she passed the Civil Service examination for a Certified caseworker's position so held at Nassau County Department of both: Children and Family Services and Social Services. This was around 1984 to 1987. Millicent broadly charged responsibilities entailed : case management of Eugene F. Kinship and non-kinship foster care as well as adoption proceeding ; Aid to Families with Dependent Children ( AFDC O) ; Home relief; Emergency assistance to Adults and families ; AIDS Consultative services ; Domestic Violence Mediation Services ; food stamps eligibility determination ; Preventive services for at risk families and TASA ( Teenage services O) for managing adolescent pregnancy cases.

Again, Millicent oversaw management of case planning and discharge planning functions. She also discharged adolescent to Independent Living Program: its Agency operated Boarding Home for Teens aged 16 to older. Millicent provided transitional support and adjustment for the affected adolescents. She managed Risk assessment and referral of adolescents and Adults to AIDS unit for ELISA (Enzyme Linked Immunosorbent assay) and HIV antibody screening. She attended the Adjudicatory hearings (a.k.a) jurisdictional Hearing) in deciding the best interest of the child), Adoption finalization Hearing pursuant to Domestic Relations Law 114 and Fair Hearings. As a public official, Millicent acted in Good Faith according to the Social Service Law: section 424: its immunity from civil and criminal liability . In 1987, Millicent energized her own interstate migration to Maryland. She tapped into diverse settings. There she began at Charles County Health Department, Mental Health, and Substance Abused Services at Route 301 and Theodore Court, White Plains, Maryland. She functioned as a Certified Substance Abuse Counselor. Millicent, later transferred to Fairfax County, Virginia Federal Office of Management and Budget as a Contracts Specialist. There she was charged with Fiscal management and the allocation for Federal funds to compliant Contract agencies including reassessing the agencies' compliance standard for fund eligibility, e.g. Casey/s Foundation. In the wake o the Budgetary cut backs, she became a Program Specialist for the Standard and Compliance Unit, State of Maryland Department of Juvenile Justice in 1998 in Baltimore, Maryland. Millicent  designed programs that tailored the need of the Juvenile PINS (Persons in Need of Supervision with history of absconding from home, Truancy, and other non-criminalized behavior.) and those convicted juveniles with criminal records. Millicent in every Non- Profit sectors had appreciated and understood the dynamics of the Federal legislation on the organization and had established a relationship with the legal environment.   

“...You may not know how to raise your self- esteem, but you

Definitely know how to stop lowering it..."

Awo Osun Kunte

Millicent honored her personal liberty and elevated her stature of self- dignity, self-respect and self- esteem. She shunned the highly repressive costs of mental and spiritual colonialism. Millicent harnessed her protective shield of a positive self- image and esteem against the society's repressive elements, i.e., ribald jokes and derision.

"...The cost of liberty is less than the price of repression ...

W.E.B. DuBois

Her Existential struggle forced Millicent to choose resiliency and perseverance. This was her adaptational symbolism. Her compassion benevolence and empathy gravitated toward the physically challenged and other perceived healthy class.

... One's work may be finished someday but one's education, never...

Alexander Dumas, the Elder

Intellectual Renaissance transformed Millicent Into a Bibliophile enthusiast. She envisaged education as a lifelong commitment. Her enlightened Insight and perspicacity inspired both the admiring erudite and captious critics alike. She shared assimilated thoughts such as the Middle Passage: its Transatlantic Slave Trade; the Ancient African History; the African Philosophy and Spirituality and American Muslim History. Millicent always prompted her sister to never forget about their paternal African Gullah (Saltwater & Freshwater Geechee's) Cultural heritage and history and about their maternal Native American Cherokee and Choctaw heritage and their Trail of Tears.

"...Our hearts are the wrapping which preserves God's work, We need NO more ...

The Quran, Sura 4:155

In the monotheistic tradition, Millicent praised and followed the Quranic Islamic Faith as duly incumbent on all faithful believers. This was her homeostatic balance in her. She daily communed with the Merciful, the Compassionate and Beneficent Allah, etymologically Arabic term for God. Her observed ritual honored the Pillars of faith: Shahada (the profession of faith); Salat prayer; zakat (alms tax) and Ramadan (fasting).

Millicent met and fell in love with Colin Carey during the 1990s. They unanimously entered a common law marriage that is only recognized in the District of Columbia and the 13 states. Upon the unsuccessful pregnancy of triplets. They moved to Greensboro, North Carolina. He was her Caucasian husband until his death in 2005 circa. Later Millicent was joined by her Mother who reminisced Greensboro's southern environment as her native rusticated hometown, Minter, Alabama. Given her mother's saturnine health. Both she and her mother returned to New York in 2006. Millicent and her sister cared for their mother until her death from cancer and myocardial infarction on 09 June 2008.

"You can look ahead, You can look behind, What is written

Cannot be changed The Oracles of Ifa

Its African wisdom immersed Into Millicent's intrapsychic phenomena where she was truly cognizant of having no control over her antecedent life. Yet, she drew upon her inner strength and resources to forge her cosmic destiny and future. She was indebted to her own individual responsibilities over her life.

"...Do not follow the path. Go where there is NO path to begin the trail

Ashanti proverb

Millicent was a Trailblazer who orchestrated mettle and conviction to go against the grain. She died in her sleep, Rest her soul.

Millicent is survived by loved ones who missed her dearly: Sister Stephanie Belton: Her Aunt Laurel (Mills) Talbott and Uncle in Law Theodore Talbott, Aunt Irene Pauline (Mills) Simmons, Aunt in Law Naomi Mills, Aunt- in Law JoAnn (Brown) Mills and Aunt-In- Law Julia(Ryals) Mills, remaining 31 maternal and paternal cousins and their families. Millicent is preceded In death by her late brother Rufus Roscoe Jr., Her late Father Rufus Roscoe Belton (Retired United States Marine Sergeant and Lithographer Forman ), her late Mother Matilda Lucinda Mills Belton , her late Uncles and Aunts: Hearstfield Mills and Aunt In Law Florrie Mills , Emmanuel Mills , Lula Mae Belton Woodley, Mary Elizabeth (Mills) Bailey, Ella Mae (Mills) Chestnut , David Mills, Hattie Lee Louise Mills and Ex-Uncle In law —the Nigerian husband of Hattie; Caroline (Mills) Carlisle and Eddie Mills Jr. and Cousin and God-brother, Vernon Mills and cousin, Jasper Simmons.

"...You must live within our Sacred Truth ..." African Hausa Proverb

Written painfully by,

Stephanie Belton

The Surviving Deaf Sister

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